Husband On Purpose: Your 30 Day Action Plan to Become a Better Man and Build a Better Marriage by Conrad Deas

Author:Conrad Deas [Deas, Conrad]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Husband, Unknown, Marriage, Wife
Publisher: Humble Courage Publishing
Published: 2015-09-01T07:00:00+00:00

What is the ideal outcome I want from my marriage?

How do I want to feel?

How do I want my wife to feel?

What do I mean by how do I want me and my wife to feel?

I mean how you want to feel when you think about your wife or when you’re around your wife.

I mean how you want your wife to feel when she thinks about you or is around you.

I would see these things and try to really FEEL what it would be like to EXPERIENCE the way I really wanted my marriage to be.

In a Wall Street Journal article, Bosch said 40% of Americans fight about loading the dishwasher. Jennifer and I were in that 40%.

I don’t know if we ever really “fought” over loading the dishwasher, but we definitely have had some silly disagreements and unnecessary arguments over simple stuff, including loading the dishes.

<Begin Sarcasm> Obviously the plastics are supposed to go on the top rack and the plates are supposed to face to the right because that’s how I learned how to do it. <End Sarcasm>

When I decided there were certain ways and things I wanted Jennifer to feel when she thought about me, I let the trivial dishwasher disagreement go.

I didn’t want someone to mention my name and the thing that comes to her mind is “He fusses about how I load the dishes!”

I didn’t want someone to mention her name and what comes to my mind is “She puts the plastics on the bottom!”

The truth is that’s what happens though. What we focus on expands and how we make someone feel becomes who we are to them.

Deciding on and dreaming about your ideal marriage gives you something to strive for. And a standard to uphold.

This is not to say we're dreaming about a new marriage and are ungrateful for our current marriage.

Decide on and dream about the marriage you want while being grateful for the marriage you have.

Here’s an interesting exercise.

Start with the end in mind.

Imagine your wife at your funeral. I know that can sound, well, morbid, but stay with me for a second.

What would you want your wife to say about you at your funeral?

What kind of man do you want her to remember you as?

What kind of man do you want her to tell everyone you were?

How do you want her to say you made her feel?

That’s the life you want to live with her NOW.

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